Forgiveness And New Beginnings

19 Apr, 2025

Good Evening, Patients! Forgiveness and New Beginnings: A Journey to Peace

This feels like the right place to start, forgiveness and new beginnings. The messy, beautiful process of healing when life fractures unexpectedly.

I’ve been navigating a storm in my personal and online life. Private struggles, my weakest moments, were shared without my consent. Words meant for no one’s eyes but my own, and the person I thought I could trust became public. I felt exposed and unsure how to breathe beneath the weight of it all.

I missed him. In that vulnerability, I reached out. His first message to me: “Are you alright?” That simple kindness undid me. I’d forgotten what it felt like to trust, to be met without judgment. We agreed to talk. What followed were paragraphs of apologies—no excuses, just accountability. He’d read the document, finally understood what others had tried to explain. He saw his actions clearly: wrong, harmful, not normal.

I reread those messages, thankful. He gave me peace. “I’ll never come back,” he promised. No alt accounts, no lingering threads. He blocked everyone, committed to growth, to seeking help. “I need to take responsibility,” he told me.

I told him I couldn’t forgive—not yet. Not until I’d healed. He understood. “I don’t expect it. Not ever.” Still, I asked to stay connected, even peripherally. I wasn’t ready to let go. His refusal was gentle but firm: “No. Not now, not ever. I need space to learn. Please don’t reach out again.”

And just like that, we parted ways.

That night, I ate a full meal for the first time this week. Slept eight hours. Felt the quiet peace replace the pain I had been feeling.

Forgiveness came not when he apologized, but when he walked away. He earned it by releasing me—by choosing growth over guilt, accountability over avoidance. I’m thankful. For the closure, for the clarity, for the courage it takes to say, “Enough.” He is now blocked, and I feel free.

Remember Patients, Forgiveness is something that must be earned, not simply given. You can say you forgive someone before they’ve truly earned it, but that often allows hatred to grow into something deeper and more painful.

You shouldn’t forgive someone just because you think it’s the “right” thing to do. They need to earn it by learning from their mistakes and showing real change. Sometimes, you may never be able to forgive—and that’s okay too.

Forgiveness isn’t meant for everything. What really matters is change.